People give a lot of power to money, influence, beauty, even just plain youth. People think when you have some of visible, society defined qualities, you have no chance of failing, you have something to fight for. Truth is, none of that matters without hope. Just plain hope. People underestimate hope. They underestimate dreams, goals, having vision of something that you strive to, that you see as goal, possibility. Take that away and you are creating misery. That goes for every single aspect in life. You can give someone a lot, you can try to be reassuring, you can tell them what you think they want to hear, you can be giving in various ways, but if you revoke the hope. if you null the future, if you say that anything they dream of will never be, that is all for nothing. You can apply this to any situation in life, jobs, hobbies, art, relationships, health.... it's is always the same. No matter what we do, no matter how we live or how we look, or how old we are, having hope is what...
I am invisible, but not in a sense people may think when someone says this phrase. When someone says they are invisible, they usually mean visually unremarkable, someone that blends in with a crowd that can be easily forgotten. Which is not necessarily a bad thing, if you ask me. While with aging (and I am approaching 54 this year), yes, sure I am becoming visually more and more "unremarkable" with each year, thanks to our social culture that for women only quality is her youth and looks (because we are not humans, see my other article about that topic), I think I am not quite there yet. I am still pretty recognizable, and if I want (but I usually don't) I can stand out in the crowd. But that's not what I mean by invisible. I am invisible as complete person, as personality with all the things I can do and I can offer. And I am pretty sure I am not the only one who feels like that. Unless you are rich, famous, ultra media-gorgeous, so talented that it's unique in t...